Written by: Kate Rich, mom of 3 FM Alums
As a mom of three kids, I remember the mix of excitement and anxiety that comes with sending little ones off to preschool and kindergarten. It feels like a huge milestone, but it can also be overwhelming. My oldest is now in high school, and all of my kids are now solidly in the older child and early teen years, but looking back, I can see I’ve gathered some insights I wish I had known back when they were little. Here are the top lessons I’ve learned that I hope will help you as you embark on this adventure.
Lesson 1: Embrace Independence
One of the biggest surprises for me was realizing just how capable my kids were. When I stepped back and let them take the lead—whether it was putting on their shoes or choosing their outfits—they thrived! For example, my daughter went through a phase where she wanted to wear every single hair bow in our house to school every day. I’ll admit, I worried that other people would judge me for letting her show up with 20-30 bows in her hair. But you know what? It turned into something amazing! The kids at school started talking about her “hair bouquet” and even made a game to count her bows each day. They would draw pictures of her, and it became a wonderful way for her to connect with her classmates. Kids are often more independent than we give them credit for, so let them try! You might be amazed at what they can do.
Lesson 2: Allowing for Individual Growth
I remember worrying when my son went through a stage with a lot of big anger outbursts, fearing it meant he would struggle forever. Another one of my children struggled with intense anxiety, especially around separation. Looking back, I wish I had known that these behaviors could be a normal part of developing and growing up. Kids change and evolve, especially when they have the love and support of their family and community. Trust the process; each phase will pass, and your little ones will grow into the incredible individuals they’re meant to be.
Lesson 3: Building a Strong Community
One of the greatest gifts I gained during those early parenting years was the friendships I made with other moms. The bonds we formed have carried us through the ups and downs of parenting, and many of those friendships are still strong today. Don’t hesitate to invest time in connecting with other parents. It may be challenging at times, but these relationships can be some of the most supportive and fulfilling parts of your journey.
Lesson 4: Supporting Emotional Development
Navigating friendships and relationships is a key part of childhood. As your kids encounter conflicts with peers, they’ll need your guidance. Encourage them to express their feelings and help them learn to resolve conflicts. This will build resilience and emotional intelligence, essential skills for their future. Your teachers are also an amazing support in this department- they have so much experience, tools, and knowledge to share with you.
Conclusion
As you send your little ones off to school, remember you’re not alone in this journey. Take a deep breath and wake up each day ready to learn and love your kids just as they are today. Lean on your support systems—teachers, other parents, and friends—because you’re all in this together. Share your experiences, connect with other parents, and remember: you’re doing an amazing job.
Kate Rich with her children, Olivia, Malachi and Ginny (all FM alums)